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Welcome to a new year and the first Ask Mistress Susan letter! Women, please take note that the issue discussed this week is NOT uncommon. This could this be your heterosexual husband/boyfriend.

Susan, I have been married for 15 years, but I have one strange vice: I love to wear women’s panties. My wife does not know because I wear them when she travels for her job. I have been wearing panties for many years; I find them exciting and comfortable. However, I know I should not by normal social standards. Any suggestions?~ B

Dear B,

The first rule of any flourishing relationship is COMMUNICATION. I have never seen a flourishing relationship that didn’t follow this rule. Anytime I get a reader who states “my wife does not know,” I get concerned. When issues are kept hidden from spouses, problems can eventually occur, especially regarding trust. You find panties “exciting and comfortable” the same way I find wearing a man’s boxers “exciting and comfortable.” The ONLY difference is “normal social standards” state that it is okay for a wife/girlfriend to want to wear her man’s boxers, t-shirts, or shirts around the house, but it is somehow unmanly or girly if a husband/boyfriend wants to wear his girl’s panties.

B, you are NOT alone. In my line of work, I have come across many, many heterosexual men, including manly men, who love wearing women’s panties for the same reasons that you do. It is NOT as rare as people think; men just don’t talk about it. For some men, it is something kinky to do that pleases them and spices up their sex life.

However, I do see your reluctance to tell your wife. It’s hard to say, “Honey, I want to wear your red bikini panties to work tomorrow. Okay?’ Not every woman is okay with her man wearing lingerie. Mistress Susan has a very healthy, positive attitude towards sex, so I don’t have a problem with my man wearing panties. However, I would question him about whether he is wearing them because he is interested in a transgender lifestyle or is he simply wearing them for reasons discussed earlier in this response. Even though I am very open-minded, I and the majority of women would NOT be interested in being in a relationship with a man interested in a transgender lifestyle.

B, you know your wife. If you think that she would freak out about you wearing lingerie, you need to plan your approach carefully and be prepared for the consequences. The flip side is she may surprise you and be open to your secret. I am a firm believer in never keeping secrets (picture Babyface singing this to you) when that secret affects the other person. As I said in my opening, the first rule of any flourishing relationship is COMMUNICATION.

Whip of Luxury,

Mistress Susan

Mistress Susan is a health nut, Certified Personal Trainer, and Phone Sex Operator. Email your sex-related questions, tips, or comments to askmistresssusan@gmail.com. Put “Ask Mistress Susan” on the subject line. Read the disclaimer in the right column under the Ask Mistress Susan section.

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As a certified personal trainer, especially around this time of year, I am always asked the same question over and over again, “What is the key to losing weight?” My answer: Only associate with those who have the same 4M as you. It takes mindset, motivation, momentum, and meditation to be successful at losing weight. Find a fitness buddy so that s/he can help you stay on track and cheer for you.

However, the more I thought about it, I realized that to be successful at anything, you need support from others who are on the same page with you; otherwise, they will drain you. Once your energy is drain, you cannot operate at your optimal level. Whether you are talking about succeeding at running your own business, being the best partner to your mate, parenting your kids, walking your spiritual path, etc., you must only associate with others who have the right mindset, are motivated, keep up momentum, and meditate on desired goals. Here’s to not only a successful 2012 but to a successful life! Whip of Luxury!

Mistress Susan is a health nut, Certified Personal Trainer, and Phone Sex Operator. Email your sex-related questions, tips, or comments to askmistresssusan@gmail.com. Put “Ask Mistress Susan” on the subject line.

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I’m Mistress Susan, the new Fitness & Sex Columnist for Savionaire. What qualifies me to write Ask Mistress Susan? It’s simple. I am a Certified Personal Trainer and Phone Sex Operator. Women always ask me, on the low and especially after seeing the Good Morning America segment, “How does one become a phone sex operator? ” To get a better idea of what I do for a living and how to do what I do, check out the article “I’m A Phone Actress,” which was part of the Side Hustle Series over at J. Money’s Budgets Are Sexy. The article was written by Savionaire’s Editor and Publisher T. Thema Martin. She and I collaborated on my first novel in the phone sex mystery series called Whip of Luxury, which will be released in 2012. Also, go to Rat Race Rebellion for a listing of PSO opportunities.

I’m here to answer your questions about sex. Ladies, I can give you tips on how to keep your man wanting you as if you two were still in the honeymoon phase. Men, any issues you don’t want to discuss with your pals or significant other, discuss away with me because I have a very healthy, positive attitude towards sex. You can email me at askmistresssusan@gmail.com. On the subject line, please put “Ask Mistress Susan” so that I’ll know that it is not spam. Also, follow me on Twitter @whipofluxury.

By sending me your letter, you have agreed to have it and my response to it published. If your letter is chosen for publication, it will be subject to editing, and neither your name nor email address will be published because I value privacy. Please note that I receive a lot of letters daily. Even though I read every letter sent to me, I am unable to respond personally to each one. If you don’t receive a response within a week, that means that I was probably unable to answer your letter.

Disclaimer: The information provided by Mistress Susan is for entertainment purposes only and is based on her personal experience as a phone sex operator. Even though she holds a master’s degree, any advice, guidance, prediction or other message that you receive is not a substitute for advice, programs, or treatment that you would normally receive from a licensed professional such as a doctor or psychiatrist. Accordingly, Mistress Susan provides no guarantees, implied warranties, or assurances of any kind, and will not be responsible for any interpretation made or use by the recipient of the information provided.

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