Friday the 13th. In this monthly edition of Ask Mistress Susan, I address a scary situation: what could happen with your sex life during a long term relationship.
Susan, I am a 21-year old female. I have been with my partner for nearly four years, but over the past 5 months or so my sex drive has gone down the drain. I can’t seem to kick start it again. ~ D.V.
Dear D.V.,
There are a lot of factors happening here: duration of relationship, gynecological issues, stress, and age. Any relationship that has lasted over a year could start exhibiting troubling signs in the boudoir. Sex could become boring to one or both partners due to lack of variety, and it could become more of a routine rather than something exciting to do. Both factors could lead to a low drive. Talk to your partner about adding variety, spontaneity, and spice to your sex life.
Hormonal imbalance or other issues dealing with a woman’s health can affect her drive. You may want to check with your ob/gyn to make sure that nothing is going on physically that is causing your low drive.
If this change started 5 months ago, was there an event that occurred back then that could have affected your drive? Changes at school, work, and home can be stressful, and stress affects your drive. Take a moment to analyze what is different now from 5 months ago.
Lastly, you started this relationship when you were 17. Could it be that as you have matured, the relationship has run its course? Sit down with your partner to see if the both of you are still on the same page.
You have 4 options to consider. Hopefully you can put your drive into overdrive.
Whip of Luxury,
Mistress Susan
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